Full of Thanks Friday: Family Time

Last week we made it to the Saint Louis Zoo for some family time. The kids, hubs and I love going to the zoo. It’s a great place to go that doesn’t break the bank. Also, the zoo is very educational as well. Here are my quick tips for making a family trip educational:

1. I had my 4 year old name the animals and the colors of the animals.
2. Our 9 year old read the descriptions of the animals to us to help educate us on the various species.
3. We had a running tab on which animals were endangered.
4. We counted the number of animals in each section.
5. We did a little acting and describe what each animal was thinking. (This was hilarious!)
6. Each person took a turn reading and interpreting the map.

This family event was funny, educational and entertaining!


Stacey Says Saturday: Parenting

funny-parenting-dysfunction25 things Stacey has to say about parenting.

This new segment gives my opinion on a variety of topics. Twenty-five quick tips to improvement. This is just my opinion and some of it is just for humorous. I will only speak about topics that I have experience with. If you don’t like it, don’t read it. If you do like it, leave a comment please. I would love for my readers to add their tips as well.  Here are my 25 tips on parenting.

  1. Love your children
  2. Raise your children to be responsible, upstanding citizens
  3. Don’t breastfeed your children if they are able to carry a lunchbox to school.
  4. Give your children natural consequences.
  5. Don’t make promises that you cannot keep.
  6. If you are having an argument with your child then stop.
  7. Be honest.
  8. Don’t spend so much time trying to give them more that you actually give them less.
  9. Tell your children that you love them.
  10. Remember when you were their age.
  11. Don’t encourage family secrets.
  12. Be involved with your children’s activities.
  13. Trust your instincts.
  14. Let your children fall sometimes.
  15. Respect them as you want them to respect you.
  16. Don’t think that your child can do no wrong.
  17. Encourage communication
  18. Be open to compromise.
  19. Give them choices.
  20. Don’t pressure them to follow in your footsteps.
  21. Don’t have them do anything that you would not do?
  22. Eat family meals together.
  23. Learn how to keep a straight face.
  24. Don’t assume that when you put them to bed that they are actually asleep.
  25. Do not become a “helicopter” parent.


So that’s it. There are many more tips but this should get you going. Just remember that you chose to be a parent and you were chosen to be a parent to your children.

Full of Thanks Friday: My Kids

To kick off November 2013 I would like to dedicate a post to the two people that keep me moving and grooving everyday. The two that show me the true meaning of being a mother. My daughter Symone and my son Anthony are the biggest blessings in my life. Today, I am thankful for my children for making me smile, making me cry, making me laugh, and making me stay young. I love you both!!! Here are a couple of pictures from last night on Halloween.

Symone and Anthony 2013Anthony was a Power Ranger and Symone was a 50’s Girl

Trick or Treat 2013They Loved Trick or Treating!

 My nephew Chris

This isn’t one of my kids but I had to include this picture of my nephew Christopher because he was dressed as the cutest monkey!

Couple Tip Tuesday: Advice About Advice Giving

I overheard my husband on the phone the other day giving relationship advice to his friend. Ok, I call it overhearing and he calls it “ear-hustling”. My husband preceded to tell his friend what he should do in his relationship. The advice he gave was not bad and would work….for us; not necessarily his friend and his relationship. When he got off the phone we discussed the conversation and the advice that he gave. I then gave Tyrone, my husband some advice. Here are some tips on giving advice to other couples:


1. Do more listening than talking. Here what your friend is saying to you. They may just want to talk and not actually want to know what to do next.

2. Encourage communication. Always encourage a friend with relationship problems to go back and discuss this with their mate.

3. Remember that what is good for you might not be good for them. You know your mate but you don’t know theirs.

4. Don’t assume that you are getting the full story. Your friend may be giving you the shorter and “better looking” version.

5. Don’t choose sides. Again, you don’t know the whole story.

6. Give support. Let your friend know that they can come to you to talk and continue to encourage them to go back and talk with their mate.

7. Be rational. If your friend wants to utilize backhanded, sneaky or rude means to solve the problem then don’t encourage it.

8. Disclose carefully. Make sure that when you give an example about your own relationship that you are not breaking confidentiality with your own mate.

9. Never say Never. The last thing your friend wants to hear is how perfect you are and how you would never have that problem.

10.  Suggest another opinion. You don’t have all other answers. Encourage your friend to seek advice from another friend, counselor, or spiritual advisor. My husband often tells his friends to contact me for advice due to my profession and I am always caught off guard. Don’t do that!

 So, now you know what to do the next time your friend or a couple comes to you for advice about their relationship. Remember, following these tips will help with your friendship, keep you out of sticky situations and protect your own relationship.


Friday Fave: Carmel Apple Spice

Ever since I have fallen in love with carmel I have since been turned on to a new favorite that involves….CARMEL!! My friend Monica and I met up at Starbucks and I wanted a drink that was not coffee based since my doctor has me on a no coffee order. She suggested the Carmel Apple Spice. Little did I know that I would be starting an addiction that has me telling anyone that will listen I kid you not that this drink tastes like warm apple pie. I is AMAZING! The day after I tried my first one I bought two the next day.  The day after that I had to ask Starbucks how they made it. So now I have to share it with you all.

Ingredients you will need:

Apple juice

Starbucks syrup Cinnamon Dolce (You can purchase at your local Starbucks)

Whip cream

Caramel syrup (I like Hershey’s)


The food tools you will need:






    1.       Squirt 4 pumps of the Cinnamon Dolce syrup into your mug

    2.       Add apple juice until it reaches 3/4s of the cup full

    3.       Stir with a spoon to ensure that the two are blended well.

    4.       Heat the mug for about 2 minutes and every 30 seconds thereafter until you reach the desired heat level.

    5.       Add the whip cream in a circular motion to your desired amount.

    6.       Add the caramel in a circular motion until you reach the desired amount.

    7.       Enjoy!

So that’s it. You can stop by Starbucks to get you one on the way to work and you can make yourself one at home for a late night snack when Starbucks is closed. Gotta go. I think mine is ready!

10 Things to Remember for Last Minute Shopping

So, I don’t know about you all but I am a big procrastinator; especially during the holiday seasons. So, I thought that it would be fitting for me to inform you all about my Top Ten Tips for last minute holiday shopping.

1. Leave the people you like the least for last. The longer you wait to buy a gift the less thought you put into a gift.

2. Don’t be afraid to get a gift card and personalize it. You can attach it to a stuffed animal, money clip, or a bag of candy.

3. Know what stores that stay open late on Christmas Eve and are open on Christmas Day.

4. Shop at store that offer gift wrapping services. This helps cut down on your wrapping time.

5. Consider giving a 2 gift cards instead of just one to personalize it. Give a restaurant gift card and a movie gift card.         That’s like giving a couple the gift of dinner and a movie.

6. Have a detailed list of whom you need to buy for, what you are buying for them, and where you will buy it from. This will cut down on impulse buying at the store.

7. Plan a day off work to just shop for gifts.

8. Give the gift of good food by giving one of your best recipes and all the ingredients to create it. This way you will be able to purchase a gift at the grocery store along with your holiday food.

9. Make a gift basket of a variety of new items that you have previously purchased but never used.

10. If you are reading this on December 24, STOP. You have shopping to so GOODBYE!

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Getting to know this Modern Day Wife and Mom

Getting to know Stacey: 25 Things you don’t know about me.

In an effort to give my readers and followers further insight into who I am I thought I would give 25 things about me. So here they are.

My favorite food is chicken

I am highly allergic to all seafood (I can’t even walk past a fish fry). I have passed this allergy to both of my children.

I am a lover of scarves

I don’t like ugly attitudes

Before I became a therapist I wanted to become a nail technician

I love chocolate chip cookies

I love Hello Kitty ink pens

I love scouring the clearance isles

I am a very picky eater

I took dance lessons from the age of 3 to 18.

My husband and I met in college while I was a hall monitor. I busted him for a music violation.

I like to design t-shirts

I have eczema; which I have passed on to my son.

I have narcolepsy. I was diagnosed in 2005 after struggling to stay awake for so many years

I am very close to my parents

I have one sister named Heather.

I love family gatherings but I hate preparing for them.

I love fondue

I am 2 years older than my husband. He lets that be known often.

I like to sing in the shower, car and in my sleep.

I love going to Branson, Missouri for vacations. It is such a warm and cozy place to visit.

I am 30 years old

Arts and crafts are therapeutic to me.

I want to go to Hawaii someday.

My favorite movie is Steel Magnolias